THIS. THISTHISTHISTHIS THIS. She says exactly what I wish I’d known how to say to people for most of my life.
I would, however, add the caveat that most counselors and therapists aren’t even comfortable dealing with suicidal people. Nearly all of them panic and hospitalize you if you have a plan and intent.
Every time a well-known person commits suicide, I brace myself for a torrent of well-meaning but patronizing advice to suicidal people on various social networks and blogs as the friends of the victim try to find something – anything – positive to do in a situation that is by definition past all help. Most often this takes the form of lecturing people to talk to their friends or family if they are feeling depressed or suicidal, mixed with a little “If only they’d known how much we liked them, they would have stayed alive!” That sentiment in particular is infuriating to many people who have been suicidal, since they are often aware that people love or depend on them and feel more guilt for knowing they are letting them down. It also trivializes suicidal feelings – oh, cheer up, people love you, okay!
For many depressed people, telling them “You…
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